I’m Late…

Now, there would be no question that this month’s newsletter is a ‘wee’ bit late  one can understand the 2nd or 3rd, but mid-month, there is no denying the tardiness of this missive. However, taking from a quote of Einstein – “Space and time are modes in which we think, not conditions in which we exist.” – is time all in our heads? If so can this newsletter actually be late?

Take a few moments in time to consider how the mind translates clock concepts:

My Time, Your Time.

Time may just be relative. Our earliest relationship to timing seems to be a great force in setting our internally programmed clock. These settings can be made through the ‘hypnotists’ of our youth – parents, friends, schools, cultural surroundings. I once had a party where people from different nationalities were invited. Right on the dot, my German friends arrived, and other nationalities trickled in from 10 minutes to over an hour later. Each of them seemed comfortable with their choice of timing. One amazing thing about Singapore is that everything is ‘about 20 minutes away’  how long it actually takes people to get from one place to another is another matter.

Can we re-programme our nurtured clocks? Fortunately, just like any programming within the subconscious mind, we can shift what is no longer working for us anymore and re-establish new patterns and thoughts that might suit us better for the moment.

What are you waiting for?

So always being late isn’t working for you. Or maybe being stressed about getting somewhere on time is getting you down. Why is time difficult to change? Most people don’t realise that they are not the clock-winders in their life – that patterns have been absorbed usually many years ago. And following the rules of the mind, programmes that have been running for a long time are harder to displace. It’s also important to look at what areas of life are delayed  getting to important presentations, meeting friends, paying bills, swallowing a bitter pill? Sometimes there are more important reasons to keep up our current tardiness than change it.

Are we notoriously ‘known’ for being late  is it our personally established modus operendi? What would we ‘be’ if we arrived on time (like everyone else)? Is there a pattern of lateness (or extra-lateness)  if we fear success, failure, money or lack or, commitment etc. putting something off which might force us over our comfort line might give us (reason for a long) pause. What will happen if I give it enough time and it still doesn’t work? What if?… Listening to the questions that pop up with time helps guide us to answers.

Where did the time go?

Andre Agassi stated (as many other athletes can attest) that he could slow things down on the court so that he could focus on the lines of the tennis ball and know exactly where he was going to place the shot. Recent studies done at Weizmann Institute of Science in Rehovot, Israel have discovered neural patterns to getting ‘lost in the moment’, that is similar to ‘the zone’ of elite athletic performance. What does that mean for you? That time is not out of your control  in spite of the modern world¹s increasing number of ‘time-saving’ devices, and decreasing amount of time. What are some tips for more time?

1. Let go of the past – 

When we hold onto negativity from our history, we’re ‘double-timing’  living in the present and the past, which is both tiring and time-consuming. Comparing with what went before takes us away from the now as the clock ticks on.

2. Mental Speed Practice –

Because the mind can work at speeds much faster than our body, mental rehearsals at 10x/100x speed can help in re-patterning the subconscious, without the extra time. Remember, though, to practice your SUCCESS, not your failings (because both will be recorded and compounded by the mind just as easily).

3. What makes time worth it? –

While it is said that time flies where you’re having fun but when you look at it differently, then time seems to lengthen. Two weeks ago, I was (playground) swinging with a two and a half year old friend. I think we were on the swings for only 15 minutes or so, but I laughed so hard my ribs ached (in a good way) for hours. Each moment with her was a celebration. Who or what makes moments precious – how can you insert them regularly into your life? What is leeching your energy/time – can you reduce or release them. How can you replicate the good feeling times into those moments that are less ‘timely’?

4. Practice time travel – 

The subconscious mind keeps excellent time. You might have had that experience of waking up one minute before your alarm  that was your subconscious. Trust it and you will have a new best friend. Focus on making the minutes last (or in the case of a long event, speed it up)  once you realise that you have control over your perception of time, you can start to play and mould your time.

Speaking of time, thanks to all who persevered with voting for me at the Spirit of Enterprise Award 2006 site – they had some technical difficulties for a couple days, but they seem to be back on track. If you haven¹t voted, there’s still a little bit of time  voting ends the 15th September (this Friday), so go to www.soe.org.sg now  if you need help with the process, just contact us, at [email protected]

Hope you have a wonderful time for the rest of the month.


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