“When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us.” – Alexander Graham Bell
This month’s newsyletter is all about openings and closings of the mind as well as those at Grey Matter Network.
The Opening (and Closing) of the Subconscious Mind
When we’re little, we take it ALL in. Because the subconscious mind comes with some very basic encoding, but without all the advanced programmes that we require as we grow older in the modern world, we have to learn A LOT, fast. So the subconscious mind doesn’t filter what’s going in, just to ease speed. While we seem to be able to learn more quickly, at the same time we may also pick up flawed beliefs that we hold on to throughout our lives. As we get older, however, we begin to block things that seem to run contrary to our experience and beliefs – this makes it feel more difficult to change, merely because of the construction of the mind – which aims to protect us from things perceived as dangerous to us (or even that seem like too much work for it!)
This might be where the saying “you can’t teach an old dog new tricks” fits in. And it deserves special attention. Over the next few days, take special notice of your thoughts and words that position themselves in an absolute way – “I always/never…”, “I’m (My family are all) just like that”, “I can’t…” Was this an accidental belief that crept in while you were young and open, before you could deflect someone else’s limitation or belief? Or has that saying become a habit in your vocabulary – one that isn’t serving you well? What we were in the past needn’t affect our future – it is the thoughts and words in the present that are redirecting our path for the days and years to come.
The Closed Door Syndrome
Alexander Graham Bell spoke of regretfully looking at closed doors. “What if I had/hadn’t…” – I don’t know many people who haven’t said or thought this at one time or another. That with hindsight we would have done (or not done) things so differently… and it might have resulted in a very different (read better) present from what we’re experiencing right now. But as you know, the mind enlarges what we fixate on, and tends to close out opportunities and solutions that may just be around the corner (or already right in front of us!). Shouldas, wouldas and couldas all act as vampires to our energy and self-esteem, sucking us dry and leaving us lifeless.
As I’ve mentioned many times before, setting ourselves free by letting go of these regrets help us to move on and live. By forgiving ourselves of the inevitable and human mistakes that happen throughout our lives (I didn’t get a life user’s manual either), we can move past these ‘closed doors’ to see the ones that are opening all around us. If you have something that keep coming up for you as a block or regret, take a moment to look around a little. By raising your head and noticing this pattern, you might just notice a crack in a nearby door.
Opening to Opportunities, Love and Access
Forgiving our past transgressions and errors – and in learning from them –gives us permission to discover new openings. Don’t see a door? The mind can’t tell the difference between reality and imagination – so if you could pretend that you know what that new and opened door would be – what would it be? Spend a little quiet time with yourself, just focusing on the possibilities to replace recent (or long-time) shut doors. They might seem ‘crazy’ or unlikely, but just try them on for size, and give the subconscious mind some exposure to the unlikely but desirable. The vast power of the subconscious mind can’t be underestimated – you might just find yourself walking through that improbable but sought-after door sooner than you’d think.
Just an example – in looking for an office space I specified what I wanted to my mind, fantasized about it (specifying it for my best and highest good) and talked to friends about it as though it were in the present. The day that the office I was planning on renting fell through (oh no, imperfect yet closed door), I got a call from out of the blue that led me to my new office (a clear glass door to the future). It really works, so try it out as soon as you can.
WE’RE CLOSED – Grey Matter Network will be closed down for August. Should you wish to contact us to make an appointment from September, or have a question or query, please email Jennifer@greymatternetwork.com or give the office a call at 63254739 and leave a message with your best contact numbers. While there may be a slight delay in responding, we’ll get back to you – thanks for bearing with us. Should you be interested in using the classroom space during this month, please let me know before the 4th and we can arrange for access.
WE’RE OPEN – Because we’ll be closed for a while, it seems only appropriate that we open up wide afterwards. The official office opening and Grey Matter Network Open House is being planned to be held on Tuesday 20th September. It’s going to be running throughout the evening; everyone is invited to stop by to see the ‘new’ place. There will be food and drinks and a few surprises. More details will be coming out at the beginning of September. Mark it down on your calendar (that’s a strong hypnotic suggestion!).
To all the fabulous people who are turning a year older this month, a happy and healthy birthday to you. Happy National Days to Singapore and Malaysia (Switzerland, Macedonia, Pakistan, India, Indonesia, Hungary, and Uruguay too).