“What we call the beginning is often the end. And to make an end is to make a beginning. The end is where we start from.” T S Eliot
As we begin the last month of 2005, I start to think about endings. And beginnings. And endings.
I have always had a good feeling about beginnings – fresh starts, new approaches, unexplored possibilities… I’ve historically had a few more difficulties with endings – terminations, completions, and finalities. I know of a few people who thrive on getting to the finish line at all costs, but I know a greater number who find themselves dealing with the issues of ‘what do I really want to end up with?’; ‘Am I really finished?’; ‘Is this the final result that I’m truly happy with?’; ‘Is it really time to stop?’; or ‘How do I actually get to the end from here?’.
Breathing – what a good example…
Just take a moment and breathe in deeply and hold it for a moment. Lovely. And now just breathe out slowly. Pretty easy, right? However, probably by the time you read this sentence, you’re already breathing in again. And that’s the way it works. Inhale, exhale, inhale, exhale… Taking in life-giving air when we draw it in, and releasing what we don’t need with every exhalation. A natural cycle we repeat thousands of times a day. An important one, without which, we would definitely… end. However, we don’t think about that every time we breathe out – we just believe that the sequence will keep going. We are natural experts at beginnings and endings without even knowing it.
The Mind Connects New Beginnings to Past Endings
Have you ever started a conversation with someone and thought, “Oh boy, I know where this will end…” A study recently highlighted in the New York Times, done by University of Oregon Neurosciences confirmed that new experiences are based on old ones. And that the amount of ‘feedback’ coming from the top down (our storehouse of experiences) is transferring tenfold compared to the ‘feedforward’ (or the input) we get from our senses within a situation. So what we get directly from a conversation, may be only a fraction of the ‘reaction’ we receive through internal pairing of the present to the past (of a similar person, subject or even surroundings). Even our thoughts of the future are linked in part to our experiences of the past. That’s when we think about doing something and then decide, “It’ll just be like last time” and terminate the thought or action before it starts.
When You Start with the End, the Beginning Follows
There are a few ways that you can approach beginnings and endings with the mind.
There is the philosophy of looking at the ‘realistic’ end of something. For example, if you can look at a beautiful glass vase and can imagine it already in the future, broken irreparably, and you accept the beauty and joy you get from it now, knowing that it will at some point ‘end’, then if it does, you can just realise that its time had come and rejoice in having had it for a while. This can really benefit us when we can ‘forgive’ something for ending – and take the lesson from it, so we can move on more enriched. By letting go, we can take the benefit of the beginning, middle and end of an experience without the loss.
There is also the creation of your own version of reality of the end or completion of something. You might question following a ‘virtual reality’ in getting to where you’re going, but remember (again) – where your focus goes, your energy flows. Just as your mouth waters when you think about your favourite food (preparing for digestion even when the food doesn’t exist in your present ‘reality’) so does your mind prepare your senses to receive your imaginary destinations. And those primed and directed senses help to lead you, whatever direction you point yourself.
So, can this approach defy reality? Possibly. Whenever I need a cab, I imagine that I get one really easily – in fact it is my firm belief that I’m ‘super lucky’ with cabs. And with that I’ll even wave at ‘hired’ cabs – many times people simply say, “Uncle, stop where the woman is flapping her arm.” Reality shift? I don’t know but I don’t seem to face the taxi troubles others do…By holding the end in sight, I’ve discovered different and successful ways to get there.
“The empires of the future are the empires of the mind” Sir Winston Churchill
The End of the Future Looks Bright
Recently I’ve started planning for 2006 (2116, for that matter). While thinking and dreaming/planning is a key element in setting direction and the forces around you in line, you’ve still got to take action for something to happen. By setting and planning my ‘end’ goals at 10 years from now, and asking “what do I want to accomplish, feel and experience?” it makes it easier to imagine. And bringing that back from the long term, I can imagine five years from now, and know what I need to do over the next year to get there from here, breaking it down into meaningful actions (that I feel and believe will add up to great results). I don’t know everything I’m going to do but it does help me direct myself over the next months and fit it into the greater whole.
And if you would like to know, there’s a happy ending to it, too…
“It’s the end of the world as we know it, and I feel fine” – R.E.M. (Document)
Looking into the future and the Beginning of 2006, I see…
World Hypnotism Day and Hypnosis Month Singapore
Its second year running, World Hypnotism Day, on January 4 2006, is going to be even better!
What is World Hypnotism Day?
World Hypnotism Day is January 4th. Hypnosis and Hypnotherapy Professionals in the field from various organisations around the world will be sharing their expertise and promoting the truths and benefits of hypnosis.
We like to think of it as a “Life Changing Day”!
What is Hypnosis Month Singapore?
To celebrate World Hypnotism Day, Grey Matter Network and some other Singapore Hypnotherapists are going to hold a month-long series of events to help people discover the power of their own mind, through hypnosis. Because sometimes change takes more than one day…
What Can I Look Forward to in Hypnosis Month Singapore 2006?
Throughout the month there will be highlights in the media, a variety of information presentations about hypnosis, as well as a wide variety of courses and workshops that will help you kick off your 2006 in the best way possible for you.
I don’t have all the details right now, but I hope it is alright with you to send an update somewhere near the middle of the month – so that you can start the beginnings of your wonderful, future endings off right for the year.
“The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.” Eleanor Roosevelt
Take care and talk soon,