Well, it is that time again…
What’s it going to be this year? Get in shape, be more productive at work, change the world? Why is it almost a joke when people make up their New Year’s Resolutions over a glass of bubbly on December 31st?
It doesn’t have to be that way.
Stick yourself down (it doesn’t matter if it’s the 1st, 2nd, 15th) for a short period of time and take the lampshade off your head. It’s time to be resolute.
Write them down – I used to hate to write this stuff down, because “What if I don’t do it?” Well, you’ll stand a greater chance of doing it if you have it documented. It’s a signal to your subconscious mind that you’re serious, that it isn’t just a fleeting whim (good time, paper and ink invested).
Give up on the idea of looking stupid – see above. But, really, what if you only get halfway to your goals? You’re part of the way there.
Start with the end in mind – borrowed this from Mr. Covey, I think. Get your priorities in line – what’s really important? It’s just sowing seeds now, but figure out what plant you want to grow. Improve the quality of your relationships? Change the nature of your health? Next year, what do you want to look back on – how will it be when you’re there? When you know where you’re going, it’s much easier to get there. Start with your list of resolutions then expand them out – easy peasy.
Look at all the aspects of life – slice it any way you want – health, personal development, wealth, social networks – physical, mental, spiritual, emotional – head, heart, soul… just get them all in. Otherwise, it’s like going to the gym and just lifting dumbbells on one side – things sometimes get lopsided.
Take your time – you’ve got until Chinese New Year (at least)! It’s perfect, with CNY’s philosophy of getting everything in order before day one, you’ve got three weeks to really get all of your ducks (or egrets) in a row. Look at each of them slowly and careful – take time to reflect and work out what steps you’ll need to take to get to each resolution.
Reflect on what you’ve done up to now – how was 2003, did you learn anything, do anything you were proud of? It’s a great time to note all the things you won’t do again, but also a time to pat yourself on the back with all the great things you’ve done this year (you can go back further if you like). Stumped? Take a deep breath, and think. I got a note from a friend who wrote that she learned how to ski for the first time. She mentioned that fell a lot and she couldn’t snowboard. BUT SHE SKIED! Wow, that’s fantastic (what you focus on expands – it’s the getting up, not the falling down that’s key). How many times do you belittle great things? Stop it and smile!
Reflect on the Now and count your blessings – I’m always throwing this in, but I’m so lucky (see October) with everything and everyone in my life – thank you.
Toss in a “crazy” goal – one of those ones that you would barely tell your best friend, one that really takes your breath away. Write a book? Help someone get to the Olympics? Run a marathon? Finish a thesis? Learn to sing again? Open a new office? Ok, so maybe they aren’t that crazy but they are all on my list… I’ll keep working on them. Think of something that gets you pumping (fear? passion? excitement? Feels like almost the same thing sometimes…)
Fantasize – take a few moments, close your eyes, and imagine how it will be on the ‘other side’ of the resolution (7th Path Grads – use Delta 5) Really pump it up, make it real, put feelings into it. This is like skywriting to your subconscious mind – it will take notice.
And finally – share if you want. If you set a goal last year and achieved it, I’d love to hear about it. If you have resolutions you’d like to entrust with someone else, I’ll be happy to safe-keep them (and give reminders or support as instructed).
2004, I feel, will be a wonderful, transformational year. Take good care of yourselves, be and do with only good in your heart, and love the life you live.