If you’ve landed on this page you’ve probably already done a lot of research on resolutions and have found many reasons why you won’t put your confidence in promises made over a bottle of bubbly on December 31st.
However, the American Psychological Association frames resolution time as a time when you recognize a need for change of some sort. Unlike the trap that many people may fall into, this is not a sweeping character change moment, where you shift from being ‘you’ to being someone else, it is instead a grounded start-point from which to adjust or improve the way you work, play, love or live.
The University of California San Francisco suggests that there are some scientific reasons for making and keeping resolutions. They took several of the health related resolutions and found some very good reasons for staying on track once you make a decision for change.
Being good and thorough at research can be a fulfilling and sometimes overwhelming way to access to information about change and the plusses and minuses of your ‘new’ choice in direction. And because there is so much information available there is the potential for the research phase of change to never end. This can end in analysis paralysis or discovering contradicting information that begs the question – what is the most effective or efficient or best decision for the new year?
As Theodore Roosevelt is quoted, “In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.” Because at least when you make the wrong decision, you can learn from it and move to a better solution in the future.
Because you are an active participant in your change process rather than being complacent, you are already ahead of the curve and have established a sound basis for making the transformations you need and want. There are a few steps that may clarify or simplify the process for you.
When you look at the breadth of material available, remember to focus on the benefits TO YOU.
There may be ones that align with your purpose or resonate with the reason or meaning behind the change. Why are you doing this? Listing the benefits you’ll get out of making a change can help in reinforcing your powerful focus in doing so.
You may have been called a “devil’s advocate” in the past or have found yourself looking at both sides of an issue and even arguing for and against within yourself, and this is a great skill for making deep and lasting changes. The subconscious mind is protective in nature and many times the reason we *don’t* make a change is for a very good reason. It may be a reason that we established early on in our lives, or through a misperception or inherited belief, but a reason that the child-like mind attaches on to and holds closely.
To discover possible past blocks or learned beliefs that may not be working any more, we may need to be a bit gentle with ourselves and imagine that a part of us didn’t have as much information as we do know, or could look at a problem with as much insight or experience as we have now. From that perspective we can ease into a new understanding or view a problem from a more enlightened point of view. In the negatives we can discover the key blocks that prevent us from opening the door to a new chapter of our lives.
We might even be getting something out of continuing our problems or patterns – that, from a different perspective, could stop or block us from succeeding at the shifts we want and need RIGHT NOW. Once we see these internal conflicts as misunderstandings, we can usually find a gentler and sagacious way of moving through the obstacle and into the change.
You are not a person to let things happen to you – you think about and make things happen in your life. And when you work with the subconscious mind you can use your sharp internal guidance system and ability to ask the tough questions to make profound shifts for your own efficient progress.
Do you have to do all this on the first of January? Of course not.
However, ‘the best time to plant a tree was 20 years ago, the second best time is today’. So make today your start for change. If you want to bring the power of your own subconscious mind into the change process, you can find out more about how hypnosis works for you and the benefits you’ll experience, contact me and I’m happy to answer your questions or book an appointment.